o Alaikum!
Praise be to Allah Who is All-Knowing!
English:As you said,that love happens and u dont do,it just happens.
I have a answer to that as well.
Do you know that,Allah created man for his worship.Do u know that Man and Jins were created only to worship Allah and nothing else.
And worshipping Allah includes following the commands of Allah.
I understand that NiKAAH isnt easy but I am afraid thata is the only solution.
The point is you have to decide whom do u love the most:
-Allah Subhan wa Talla,OR
-The person you love.
I know everyone will say We love Allah,then if you do love Allah,do what Islam says; sacrificing what ur Nafs says.To overcome one's Nafs is the most important thing.
Man bears responsibility for all those actions in which his self was involved. If the action was wrong, he has no option but to submit to the "punishment" which is the necessary result of his action. It will not avail him to offer excuses that he acted heedlessly in a fit of abstraction, or with a good intention. ‘His own heart will bear witness against him’ (Qurân 75:14; 6:165).Second,do you know that all things which are done for Allah are hard to get in this world and all things which are backed by Iblis are easier to achieve.Its easy to do a sin then to restrain from a sin,for example.
Falling in love is easier than Nikaah and you can see for urself,which path is being supported by Satan and which by Allah.
No doubt,this life is the test for those who want to follow the path of Allah.
Jannat is not for sale,but Jahannum is.
Getting in Janat is difficult but getting in Jahanum is very easy just like doing nikaah is difficult and falling in love is very easy.Watching a movie or listening to a song seems so nice,where as saying namaz seems to be like a burden(May Allah Forgive Us).
Dear brothers and sisters,the choice is urs.What you want to do?
Islam doesnt allow a man or woman to talk or even look at a non-mehrem except in cases where it is a necessity.
Show your love for Allah by sacrificing your nafs,as u do in Ramadhan while fasting.
Show your love for Allah by not doing anything which goes against his commands.
Remember how will you face Allah,on the day of Judgement.Are we ready for it?
When you love someone you present yourself in the best possible manner,you are carefull in doing what your loved ones likes and what he or she doesnt like.
Love Allah and Worship Allah as he deserves to be Loved and Worship.
May Allah give you hidayat.Ameen.